Monthly Friendship Questions

The monthly questions are a three-year journey to help two people grow a deeper, more meaningful friendship—one built on reciprocal investment in particular personhood. Every month includes a theme, a research-backed fact about what strengthens friendship, and three conversation questions that build in emotional depth: one casual, one reflective, and one designed for heartfelt connection.

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Why This Matters

Friendship is essential for emotional well-being, physical health, and even life expectancy. Yet adult friendships often struggle to move beyond surface-level connection. This guide is for people who want to be intentional about their friendships—whether they’re just forming or already well-established—and build something more rooted, resilient, and rewarding.

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What’s Inside

Across 36 months (billed annually), you’ll explore the full landscape of what makes friendships thrive. Each question set is grounded in scientific research from psychology, neuroscience, and sociology. The guide gradually increases in emotional depth, helping you grow trust, understanding, and closeness over time.

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Key Themes You'll Explore

1. Trust & Reliability: Built over time through consistency and emotional safety (Holmes & Rempel, 1989; Maisel & Gable, 2009).

2. Curiosity & Self-Disclosure: Asking meaningful questions increases closeness and intimacy (Aron et al., 1997).

3. Shared Experiences: Doing things together—especially novel or meaningful activities—creates strong social bonds (Girme et al., 2022).

4. Appreciation & Gratitude: Expressing affection and thankfulness strengthens emotional connection (Algoe et al., 2008).

5. Playfulness & Laughter: Shared laughter releases endorphins and strengthens trust and connection (Dunbar et al., 2012).

6. Support & Vulnerability: Responsive support during difficult times increases relational resilience and closeness (Feeney & Collins, 2015).

7. Conflict & Forgiveness: Navigating disagreements constructively deepens mutual understanding and commitment (Laursen, 1993; Fincham et al., 2006).

8. Mutual Influence & Identity Weaving: Close friendships literally shape our self-concept and behaviors over time (Aron et al., 2005; Coan et al., 2006).

9. Shared Legacy & Long-Term Connection: Reminiscing and co-creating memories contributes to a sense of belonging and continuity (Wildschut et al., 2006).

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Who It’s For

Anyone who wants to go deeper in a friendship—whether it’s two new friends building a foundation, or lifelong friends who want to renew and enrich their bond. This guide is perfect for close friends, adult siblings, platonic partners, or anyone craving authentic connection in a digital, fast-paced world.